4/17/2024 0 Comments Pissed off on a porn setThird, particularly among spiritually sensitive men who are trying to walk in obedience, porn leads to spiritual anguish. It’s one of the most confounding spiritual things you’ll ever see-men truly hate the thing they’ve just done, but then they keep going back and doing it. Porn does the opposite-it over-promises and under-delivers, and leaves a man depleted and unsatisfied and therefore angry that he’s been “cheated” (even though he’s the one doing the cheating). Healthy marital sex leaves us with such a satisfied soul-not just immediately, but in the hours and even days that follow. False gods of every kind disappoint.” When we’re disappointed, we get angry. Second, as one man who struggles in this area described it to me, “Porn is idolatry at its core. If we can’t control lustful desires, we won’t be able to control inappropriate expressions of anger. If we demonstrate a lack of control in one area, it will manifest itself in all other areas. Our choices ultimately shape our character, for good or for ill. I’m not sure if the neurological effect is the same, and I’m not qualified to say.įirst, when a man acts with anger out of proportion to the situation at hand, it might simply be a fruit of the lack of self-control. I’m not mentioning women in this post because I haven’t personally worked with a single woman who has struggled with porn. I had thought of one or two reasons why porn might lead to anger, but the shared personal experiences of these men has opened my eyes to several more.Īs a caveat, I am fully aware that a growing number of women use porn. I need to thank the men who have shared their struggles with me as well as those who have written in with specific insights for this particular post. Plenty of other researchers are far more qualified and perhaps more interested in writing about this, but I’ve gotten so many questions from the last blog post (where I mention porn’s connection to anger casually) that I thought I should follow up with this. And in that context I have witnessed the effects of porn leading to anger with men and couples with whom I’ve met. I’m writing from the perspective of one who does pastoral counseling. I’m not a therapist or a neuro-scientist. Men who regularly give in to porn often have a lot of anger toward their wives. One I haven’t seen listed, though, is anger. Plenty of research has come out about porn’s effects on men-erectile dysfunction, making your brain less attracted to your wife, distorting a man’s view of women overall, etc.
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